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This explains what steps a person can take in Delaware if a sibling is holding family keepsakes or other personal property after a relative’s death and those items are not being turned over through the normal probate process. The guidance summarizes how property is treated during probate, the duties of the personal representative, and the common civil remedies to recover specific items.
Who controls the deceased person’s property during probate?
When someone dies, legal title to the decedent’s property does not automatically belong to any heir until the estate is administered or ownership is otherwise transferred. The person appointed to manage the estate (often called the personal representative, executor, or administrator) has a legal duty to collect estate property, pay debts, and distribute assets according to the will or, if there is no will, according to Delaware intestacy rules. Delaware’s laws governing estates and probate are collected in Title 12 of the Delaware Code: Delaware Code, Title 12 – Estates and Trusts.
Was the item specifically left to someone?
If the will expressly gives a particular item to a named person, the personal representative must follow that gift. If the will does not mention the item, the property is part of the residuary estate and the personal representative must distribute it under the will’s residuary clause or under Delaware’s intestacy rules if there is no will. If someone (including a sibling) removed items without authority, that person may be treated as a wrongdoer who must return the property.
Common legal routes to recover sentimental property in Delaware
- Demand and informal resolution: Ask the personal representative to produce the estate inventory and to deliver the items. The personal representative owes duties to beneficiaries and must account for estate property.
- Court petition in the probate process: Beneficiaries can petition the probate authority or file a motion requesting enforcement of the will or for a court order compelling delivery of specific property. The probate process includes accounting and inventory requirements. See general information at the Delaware Courts website: courts.delaware.gov.
- Action for return of property (replevin or similar claim): If a third party (including a relative) has taken or refuses to return personal property, you may be able to file a civil action to recover the specific items. Delaware courts allow actions to recover personal property or damages for wrongful taking or conversion.
- Claims against a personal representative: If the personal representative improperly withheld or failed to account for property, beneficiaries can bring an action for breach of fiduciary duty or for surcharge against the estate to make the estate whole.
- Small claims or conversion claims: If the item has modest monetary value and you prefer a faster, lower-cost option, a small claims court action for conversion or replevin may be possible.
What to gather before taking action
Collect clear evidence that supports your claim. Useful items include:
- Photos or descriptions of the item (serial numbers, inscriptions, distinct markings).
- Communications (emails, texts) showing ownership, gifting, or possession before death.
- A copy of the decedent’s will and the estate inventory, if available.
- Witness statements from family members who can confirm ownership or the item’s history.
Practical step-by-step approach
- Request the estate inventory and an explanation from the personal representative. Delaware probate procedures require identifying estate assets, so beneficiaries can ask for an accounting.
- Send a written demand to the sibling and to the personal representative asking for return of the specific items. Keep a copy and proof of delivery.
- If the demand is ignored, file a petition in the probate court (or the applicable county probate/Orphans’ Court procedure) asking the court to order turnover of the items or to require the personal representative to account for them. You can also consider a civil suit for replevin or conversion in a court of competent jurisdiction.
- If the person withholding the property is the personal representative and refuses to cooperate, ask the court to remove or surcharge that representative for breach of fiduciary duty.
- If needed, consult a lawyer with experience in Delaware probate and civil recovery to evaluate the strongest legal claim, prepare pleadings, and represent you in court.
Timing and urgency
Act promptly. Evidence can vanish, and prolonged delay can make recovery harder. There are statutes of limitation for civil claims—so do not assume you have unlimited time. If the estate administration is ongoing, courts can often issue interim orders to preserve property while the dispute is resolved.
When to involve a lawyer
You may want a lawyer if any of the following apply:
- The item has high monetary or sentimental value and negotiations fail.
- The personal representative refuses to provide inventories or denies the item belongs to the estate.
- There are allegations of theft, concealment, or other wrongful conduct.
- The matter is likely to become contested or complex (multiple heirs, ambiguous will language, or mixed ownership claims).
Delaware has specialized probate procedures and courts; a lawyer with estate litigation experience can advise which court to file in and what remedy fits your facts.
Where to find Delaware statutes and probate resources
Delaware’s statutes governing probate and estate administration appear in Title 12 of the Delaware Code: https://delcode.delaware.gov/title12/. General Delaware Courts information (including probate-related resources and local court contacts) is at: https://courts.delaware.gov/.
Disclaimer: This article is for general informational purposes only and is not legal advice. It does not create an attorney-client relationship. For advice about a specific situation, consult a licensed Delaware attorney who can evaluate the facts and recommend the best course of action.
Helpful Hints
- Start by asking politely and in writing; many disputes resolve without court intervention.
- Request the estate inventory in writing—this is a formal way to learn whether an item is part of the estate.
- Preserve evidence: take photos, save messages, and get witness statements while memories are fresh.
- If a personal representative refuses to cooperate, file a court petition rather than trying to seize property yourself.
- If you expect a contested fight, gather financial records that show transfers or valuations related to the item.
- Check whether insurance, appraisals, or appraisers’ reports exist for valuable keepsakes before filing claims.
- Keep communications civil and documented—hostile conduct can make settlement less likely and harm credibility in court.